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The Women’s Reservation Bill was finally passed in the Rajya Sabha on Tuesday, but not before a disgraceful and downright shameful display of aggressive male chauvinism. It was a crude and rude reminder to all of us, who thought that gender equality is, with hesitant steps, becoming a reality in many spheres.

One wonders, as Sharmila Tagore put it, “About how these men would be behaving within their spheres of influence, when they are so blatantly aggressive in the House of Elders.” Imagine the conduct of the Sadhu Yadavs and Kamal Akhtars in their constituencies! How they would be ordering around the bureaucrats, with ten times their education and, if I may add, their wisdom? How, in fact, would they be with their children, and especially their wives?

The servile attitude of the women, in such closed societies, and the assumed superiority of the men folk can be well inferred from the ruffian tactics that some of the MPs adopted to oppose the Bill. While reservation is a highly debatable issue, it is precisely this naked hostility that was on display in Parliament that makes one feel that there is no other way, at least in this country, for women.

One of my colleagues said he opposed reservation of any kind and that an alternative was possible. I gave him the option: Voluntary political party quota for women. Norway gives it, so do Sweden, Holland, Iceland and South Africa. But this is India. For me to believe that the likes of Lalus and Mulayams, or even a lot of male MPs in the Congress and the BJP, would voluntarily give up seats for women, I would have to belong to another planet.

Sample this. What did Lalu say when he was asked why he wasn’t backing the piece of legislation that would help empower women? He dismissed the entire exercise, saying that we were living in a fool’s paradise, if we thought women would be able to develop an independent political thought, and then counter questioned, “If I were to ask Rabri to vote a certain way, do you think she would not.”

This comes from a man, whom Sonia Gandhi reminded, has seven daughters! I am convinced this is exactly what a lot of men, in circles like his, feel. But I don’t totally share his certainty. Yes, Rabri will do exactly what Lalu tells her to. But will Misa do the same as well? Daughters belong to another generation and have greater exposure to the world and a better education. There would be, by and by, some daughters who would rebel. This legislation would help the generation-next women, even in rural and backward social orders.

It has already taken 14 years for the Bill to come this far. Most men, across parties, never wanted it to. Had it not been for the determination of Sonia Gandhi, there is no way that the Bill would have seen the light of day even now.

Sonia Gandhi is not just making brownie points with the women electorate, she is undoubtedly seeing the larger picture related with women's empowerment. The reason I say that is not because she belongs to a more enlightened strata, but because this is an issue she strongly believes in.

Let me cite the Shah Bano case here. When Rajiv Gandhi was the prime minister, he had infamously buckled under the pressure of Muslim clerics. It is believed that Sonia Gandhi, who used to keep a very low profile then, had for the first time spoken on a political issue, and that too against her husband’s decision, saying that the government needed to stand up for the rights of an old and deserted woman instead.

Even after the Rajya Sabha victory, it is not going to be an easy political ride to get this Bill cleared. The Congress would have to fight another battle in the Lok Sabha, just like it had to bulldoze the Indo-US nuke deal through. The terms are easier. The Congress has more seats and the opponents can’t muster enough strength to bring in a no-confidence motion. This time, the BJP and the Left are in favour of the Bill. The Left may be ideologically inclined to back it, but the BJP is doing it mainly to appear progressive amongst its urban votebank.

Whether one backs any bill or opposes it, the point is that mostly our politicians miss the bigger picture, concentrating only on their parochial party interests. The BJP opposed the nuke deal, despite having initiated it, as it wanted to destabilize the government. The SP and the RJD are hell-bent against quota for women because it may outrage the minority community. Even Mamata Banejree, who is said to have stood up when the Bill was brought before Cabinet, as a gesture of welcome, has now changed her mind because she has an eye on West Bengal polls, which would include a substantial Muslim population.

The sorry part is that our political class doesn’t put the country first. That is a depressing reality, which even a true patriot like Nani Palkhivala had admitted to. Despite having put everything on stake to preserve democracy and the Constitution, especially during the Emergency, this advocate of free rights had later bemoaned that the answer for India was a controlled dictatorship on lines of what is in place in Singapore. Coming from Palkhivala, it couldn’t have been sadder.

From the time of England’s Suffrage Movement in 1913, when activist Emily Davison threw herself in front of King George V’s horse and died, till now, when the women’s reservation in Parliament is close to becoming a reality in India, women have come a long way.

But, it is equally true that the road ahead to achieve a genuine visage of gender equality is probably going to be even longer.

If anything, what the Rajya Sabha proceedings have proved without doubt is that men in this country, on being forced, will concede ground to women, inch by inch, only kicking and screaming.
(The views expressed by the author in the blog are his/her own)
Mohammed Faizan Sawda - United Arab Emirates
Dear Akrita Reyar

I do support the Women Reservation Bill..but does it gurantee that we won`t get Mayawatis and Rabri Devis in Parliament..If someone opposes SC/ST/Minority reservation, he/she should not support this bill also...And why reserving seats for women alone, why we cant ban criminals from entering Parliament? Why won`t punish leaders for not fulfilling their promises during elections...i think its just politics for some and few others just support it because they found it trendy to call themselve feminist? Bt I m realy depressed that Parl will loose its sheen once a big chunk of out corrupt leaders could not fight inside
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TIMSY BANATI - NOIDA
Going through this informative article and justifying both ``for ``and `` against comments, while trying to keep a neutral view point ,,what comes out of me is this_the fight here is not about reservation....the fight here is about ``womens reservation``......While agreeing with the view point ...that its a persons mettle that counts....well ..why isnt there so much furore about other reservations which have happened and will continue to happen?
Realistically speaking , the number of cultured and educated women will only go up....which is a positive for my country.
If someone wants to make a difference in her country ,,,would in a way take a short cut path...but will make a long term difference.....The shortcut here will atleast be dignified than other shortcuts that people some times take
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Mohammed Faizan Sawda - United Arab Emirates
I do not support the idea of reservation in any sphere. It gives way to disintegration and separation. Why do we need to give reservation wn we ourselves can participate into the job? The point is there is a specific need to understand one`s responsibilities. We don`t need others giving us space...we can create space for ourselves what we rather lack is d drive to do so
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RANAJEET DUTTA - SHILLONG
Finally for the Women of India the dream has come true. However I wonder why 33 and not 50. I believe that they should be given 50 reservation as they are much part of the society as the men. They should be considered equals. Giving them 33 still shows that we men do not consider them as our equal. I really wonder about how those men who do not consider women as their equal saw the light of the day. Women and men should be given equal rights in the society nothing more nothing less.

For those men who oppose it. Well you are not men at all coz you do not have the guts to say that men and women are equal.

Thanks and regards.
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Hari - Bangalore
The Women`s bill is an official approval that women are inferior to men.It would be great that women `Earn` their place in the parliment rather than `Beg` for it.
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pointninenine - Pune
I can understand the concern for people like Lalu, et al. They have ``nurtured`` their constituencies. They have worked hard to ensure that their remain illeterate, poor, divided on caste anr religion.

Would you go to a hospital for surgery where they have reservation that 30 of the surgeons should be women? Not because women are not competent but there is a good probability that some of people in the post are there because of the reservation and may not be capable...and she is going to operate on your brain tumor.

But somewhere in this reservation debate, the fact that we should ideally vote the ``BEST PERSON FOR THE JOB`` has been lost. The best person for the constituency may or may not be a woman. The reservation is not helping.
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MJ - Chennai
Akrita Reyar very smartly points to other countries where it is ``reserved`` - what she doesn`t know or doesn`t point is that it is reserved at the party level and not at the constituency level.

Why can`t the parties voluntarily reserve seats for women? Even the parties with strong women leaders like BSP, Congress, TMC, AIADMK etc don`t reserve. They can - but they don`t.

Her title is a typical tactic...

Why doesn`t the author do her bit of research before asking the ``boys`` to grow up?
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CHANDAN - SOLAN
i totally believe and support women empowerment BUT,at the same time i think that reservation can not fulfill the required purpose this reservation is going to benefit only certain political families and won`t be doing any good for the nation. just imagine instead of 1 laloo prasad we r going to have both laloo and rabri sitting in LS or RS .who is going to work as laloo says. moreover laloos army can be increased wih his daughters. imagine the nations condition with 3 or more mayawatis. the hard truth is that to be a leader women dont need reservations.at this time we should learn from women like INDRA NOOYI, KIRAN BEDI CHANDA KOCHAR KIRAN MAZUMDAR and many like them who have achieved great hights in male dominant fields without any reservation.
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Ravi - USA
I am not against the women reservation but will the real political general women will take part int he politics? Will the decent families let there talented women to join the dirty politics?
Whole film industry actresses, TV actresses and the political bahus will be the next generation of women politics.....like those of TV Sita, TV tulsi and Amar Singh supported actresses and dont forget ASH as the fav candidate
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Subramanian - usa
Nothing would be lost if women are given the quota as they call it. Men have ruled for thousands of years and even Lord Rama did not offer to go to fire to prove his integrity but Sita had to sacrifice. It is only the right direction for us if we have to progress. Let us quote Indira as an example. She did not respect democracy.
Others did well. Jayalalita does not believe in democracy or probity in public life. Why not million of others like Panchali, Sita, Durga, millions of unknown uneducated women who had never let down their families even if their husbands were drunk. Currently women are doing better than men. Lallu is a corrupt politician and he is not an example for any one. He deserves to go behind bars. Mulayam Singh is not even educated. All the social activitists from women have done wonders for us. Bharat mataki jai.
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rohit - Delhi
Hi,
Let me clarify this on the onset i have nothing against women resv. bill but my point is what purpose will it serve. Its simple
1)if a lady has that in her what it takes to lead she dont need reservation,
2)Even if Bill is passsed still the 200 Odd Women MP`s will be from existing Political families, they will win with the backing of the so called existing Male Politican in their family..
3) I say this beacuse if you think reservation would increase particaption of general women, then think this how many independent educated honest male politicans you see who dont have any political backing.
4) So if rev Bill means thatinstead of male members, women members will be in LOk Sabha but from same political families, whta difference that makes...

I am totally in favour of the view that we need to increase women partication in all spheres of life, but i dont see resv will serve any purpose..
AND YES MS. AKRITA REYAR, MISA MAY NOT VOTE AS LALU SAYS BUT AGAIN THIS ALSO THE TRUTH EVEN WITH RESV MISA WONT WIN UNTIL LALU SAYS SO...THATS THE WHOLE POINT!!!!!
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Ashish - who cares
I just don`t understand how ``reservation`` = ``equality``, be it gender or cast or anything other than ``merit``.

However, I do agree and support ``opportunity`` and ``equality``.

``reservation`` is NOT = ``opportunity``
``reservation`` = ``LOST opportunity``
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ashwani gupta - kathua j&k
dear akrita,we just have to change our mind set , there is no diff. between boys &girls, this is just a cheap politics.women have their own identity but can u think that she can do everything all alone,(hum hi hum hain to kya hum hain tum hi tum ho to kya tum ho).
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abhishek - hyderabad
i totally support the bill... but am ashamed there has to be a bill to force political parties to give more MLA,MP tickets to women.
most people in andhra pradesh, are afraid of the bill!! it is normal to expect such a thing in our state where we have women like nannapaneni rajakumari, ganga bhavani, vijaya shanti, roja, and a few others who would be front runners in ``world`s worst people`` or ``disgrace to mankind`` awards.
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By these reservations women just insult themselves and the work of great woman leaders such as Sonia, Indira, Jayalalitha, Thatcher, Mayawati and hundreds of others who have never wanted largess from ``men``.

I mean, come on girls - half the voting population are women.

Let`s see... where else do we need to have reservations for ``empowerment``?

Another illogical part of this article is ``if not for Sonia G`` - I wonder how many of the countries that you mention had women lead the campaign towards that reservation.

Are you saying that men cannot create legislation that support women in any way?

Do you REALLY believe that this is going to ``achieve a genuine visage of gender equality``??
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Mahi - India
Hi,
`` Boys and girls are same even grls are more superior`` most of the people say this thing and accept ( including me) so from whr the question of reservation arrive? Its just a cheap politics. It ll benifit to women who actually dont need any help and then they ll start misusing that like mayawati, uma bharti and many more.
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Just think abt it I am not in favour of any reservation.
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shaan - Chennai
Don`t blame men as a whole, you need to keep in mind that it was the male dominated government of Deve Gowda that first proposed this Women`s reservation bill. Though they did not succeed in making it law they were the ones who initiated it.

Given the fact that most women are tortured by their mother-in-laws than their father in laws, you have to also highlight the fact that it is the women who are the enemies of women at home.

When it is well known that many parties oppose the bill keeping an eye on Muslim votes, the obvious question that should be asked but not asked is - Should we not do more to reform that segment of the society?
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arvind - patna
Dear Akrita,
I think anyone who thinks that by electing 181 women M.Ps more (59 women are there in the Lok Sabha) and say approx.3000 women members in the different State legislative assemblies,women of India,say approx.500 million ,will get politically empowered i think he/she is living in fools paradise......could you please explain how the rest of the 500 million indian women will get empowered? Is it not all this drama for women like Shushmas,Brindas ,etc.who are already empowered and reservations for women in the Parliament will just add to their comfortable successes in the elections? Have you ever seen a poor citizen of India earning Rs.200/day becoming M.P.?
Again,in every other fields,be it academics,govt.jobseverywhere the reservation applies only at entry level and not at lateral entries.E.g,in academics ,researvation applies only for the ion of the candidates at the post of Assistant Professor level, and not for the selction of the Associate PROF./Prof. So is the case in Govt. jobs. Under PRI Act,1973 &1974WOMEN ARE already enjoying 33 reservation and in States like Bihar ,it is 50.If a woman has talent ,she can move up,who has stopped her? why to reserve 33 in the Parliament? I wont comment on the participation of the elected women members in the PRIs.Has it been a successful experiment?
Dear friend,if u r really interested in the emanicipation of the women communitythen,i think, you should pitch for the 50 reservation for women in the Govt.jobs.I think,nothing really empowers a personif she /he is empowered economically.Well if you wish to empwer your individual self and move up the hiearchy of Maslow`s needs then thats different thing.But then you can do that without taking the views of whole women community of India for granted and without being the self proclaimed spokesperson of theirs.I am sure,if you ask the women of India today,whether they want economic empowerment/emanicipation or political99will prefer economic.Only a handful of them who have fulfiiled their physiological,security &love needs will vote for political emanicipation.
Coming to Laloo`s daughter views where you have commented on your own there also I strongly disagree with you.And I do sympathise with them .Every one whether male/female ,should have independent political/social views on any topic.Everybody`s human rights must be respected at any cost.Rossovelt`s four freedoms must be granted to everyone.But,I am really sad to see that its not granted in the majority of the Indian homes due to patriarchal set up.
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Devika - Noida
I would like to quote one of my friend here, `women in india do not need resrvations, we need more of women like Indira Gandhi, Sarojini Naidu, Kiren Bedi who have painted a new picture of modern indian women `
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You talk about equality, why do you want reservations? Because ``they`` never let you read or write? What stopped the existing women leaders? When are women stop using their gender as a crutch? Do women really need a reservation to excel? Aren`t women more capable than that? Do women need any charity or reservation from men?
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Devika - Noida
I do not support the idea of reservation in any sphere. It gives way to disintegration and separation. Why do we need to give reservation wn we ourselves can participate into the job? The point is there is a specific need to understand one`s responsibilities. We don`t need others giving us space...we can create space for ourselves what we rather lack is d drive to do so....
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Anil - Noida
I do support the Women Reservation Bill..But does it gurantee that we won't get Mayawatis and Rabri Devis in Parliament..If someone opposes SC/ST/Minority reservation, he/she should not support this bill also...And why reserving seats for women alone, why we cant ban criminals from entering Parliament? Why won`t punish leaders for not fulfilling their promises during elections...i think its just politics for some and few others just support it because they found it trendy to call themselve feminist? Bt I m realy depressed that Parl will loose its sheen once a big chunk of out corrupt leaders could not fight inside..lol
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shashank - delhi
...and women should take it inch by inch...if not possible the other way round...it is rightly and unfortunately pointed out that male chauvinism- more than anything else- created the pandemonium hat we saw in the temple of democracy. But its an idea whose time has come.
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Smita - Delhi
If snaching, and grabbing would do...so be it...but rights women must get, because these rights they deserve. We have long outlived the generation when women were not allowed to read anything beyond the 18 Puranas. At an age when they know the nuances of rocket science, they must get what they deserve, by any means...the writer deserves kudos for articulating the feelings of women so well...
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