Insecure partners suffer more conflict with sexual desire

Washington: A new study has revealed that people who feel insecure in their relationship with their partner, who tend towards anxiety or avoidance and are compulsive or controlling in their affection, experience more conflict in their sexual desire and are less happy in their relationships.

While partners, who are secure, have a more satisfactory sex life and are more able to be sensitive in the affection they give, said the study. "Our results show that insecure people (anxious-ambivalent) tend to be compulsive in their care for their partners, while people prone to avoidance tend to be controlling and to exhibit greater conflict in their sexual desire", Javier Gomez Zapiain, a professor of the psychology of sexuality at the University of the Basque Country and lead author of the study, told SINC. Zapiain`s research group studied the level of conflict in people`s erotic desire, their degree of satisfaction with their sexual life and other factors related with sexual behaviour and care, based on a sample of 211 long-term couples in the Basque Country. The respondents were divided into two large groups according to their affective model – secure and insecure. The insecure people were then subdivided into anxious and ambivalent types. "Anxious people react by clinging to their partner and caring for them compulsively, while avoidant types react by evading their relationship. Their philosophy is that it`s better not to have than to have and to lose``. These people also have more problems in the area of intimacy", said the researcher. ANI