Sairee Chahal, founder of www.sheroes.in tells us why women need mentors
Lending their experience
There is a world outside of our lives and there`s also a lot to learn from those who matter. We do not have the time to experience it all personally, but we can through a mentor’s experience. Experience, or the lack of it in some cases, is a privilege that a mentor extends to a mentee–sometimes formally, sometimes informally.
Bringing us back to the present
Our busy lives revolve around a lot of future planning–long and short term as well as a lot of the time gone by. There are several decisions–education, health, family, marriage, kids, society, career–which take us a step away from the present. A mentor can be an objective prism to re-look at the present and now. It is a time to let go of the baggage of the past before the future takes over the time at hand.
Watching out for us
We are surrounded by several relationships from a young age–family, siblings, friends, peers, colleagues, clients, the list goes on. There is an almost clear give-and-take in each relationship. The are set norms and expectations and patterns are sometimes very predictable. A mentor helps one move out of the mound of relationships to find something new, in us, our environment and the context we are in. A mentor fulfills that invisible role at various stages–a horizon gazer constantly scanning to find what is most relevant to our context.
Anchor for gratitude
We all crave the interconnectedness of human beings and the need for passion as a force in life. Human beings give and get. But not from the same person and not at the same time. Mentorship is a circle of kindness that helps us anchor gratitude and joy deep into our lives. To give mentorship, one has to receive mentorship. Not in the same way, not in the same context, but sometime when life desires.
Dissecting our fears and upholding our potential
Sometimes we forget, how brilliant, loving, kind and intelligent we are. We forget what a privilege it is to be leading the lives we do and chasing the passions we have. Sometimes we forget that we are allowed to make mistakes or that we are not a reflection of what has happened to us. We let our fears cripple our brilliance and shadow our joy. Sometimes we forget the goodness hiding in us and the potential to reach goals, we never imagined. A mentor can pick up the mirror for us, can shake us up or gently nudge us and can pull out the hidden gem when we forget, where we hid it so long.
A mentor is that person, who reflects the goodness back and silently points us in the direction of our potential, our calling and our true love.
Every woman needs a mentor, because we forget, how wonderful the result is when a human being helps another one find their joys and successes.