Washington: You may think that your success in the dating world may lie in your honesty, humour, and so on, but a new study has revealed these may have little to do with what your date may actually like.
Certain personality traits contribute to being a good judge of whether someone else thinks you’re worth meeting again, according to the study.
Mitja Back of the Johannes Gutenberg University of Mainz was interested in the question: is there’s something about personality that makes some people better at predicting whether others will want to meet them?
In 17 groups, a total of 190 men and 192 women met members of the opposite sex—basically the standard speed dating routine, but this time, with psychologists collecting a lot of data. Among that data was personality information and the all-important question after each three-minute date: for each person you talk to, do you want to see that person again? They were also asked if they thought the other person would want to meet them.
On the whole, people were very bad at guessing how many of the other persons would want to meet them. Some people had no clue at all. But others did better. Success was correlated with particular traits that are stereotypically associated with the sexes: Men who have a more promiscuous orientation were better at guessing if a woman would want to meet them, and women whose personality was very agreeable were better at guessing if a man would meet them.
The study will be published in psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.