Niessha Bubna- Left Niessha Bubna wins Miss Health Award at NSCI, Right Niessha Bubna in the Standard Chartered Marathon, MumbaiPooja BhulaYour kids have found their wings, have you? Meet three amazing women who walked triumphantly out of Empty Nest Syndrome and turned the vacuum into entrepreneurial spirit. Unlike common perception, most housewives have their plates full. They treat family and house care like projects, tirelessly working with immense dedication. Often caring for children takes precedence, therefore when kids leave for education or work, or simply get busy with their own lives, housewives are overcome by a huge sense of loss—medically known as Empty Nest Syndrome. Niessha Bubna`s (51) attempts to deal with acute loneliness after her children went to study abroad, led her to become an ace fitness instructor. Looking back, she says, "I was a typical housewife and after twenty years of playing that role, I could not imagine life beyond family. When both my kids were gone, I felt that there was nothing to live for. I had surrendered and underwent depression for one full year." In some cases full-time mothers feel alienated when their children need space as they grow up. This was true for Gita Parekh (46), who found her calling as a psychotherapist whilst dealing with the changing status quo with her kids. She says, "I was always career minded, but didn`t pursue one because I wanted to participate completely in my children`s lives. My elder son was hyperactive, so I enrolled him, and personally took him to and from several sports classes and extra-curricular activities, to channelise his energies in the right direction. I also played a lot with both my kids to keep things friendly. As my elder one started becoming independent as he neared college, it made me feel unwanted and unneeded, and my urge to work for personal growth resurfaced." Homemaker, Deepali`s Shah`s (41) case was more acute, but she turned her ship before it could hit the iceberg. "I only have one son and clocked all my chores around to give him maximum attention. When he reached his ninth standard, friends and family started warning me that I was too involved. Counsellors from his school also called me in and asked me to take it easy and focus on myself. I am thankful for it today because getting out of depression to start something of new would have been extremely difficult." Deepali now runs a thriving business of crunchy dates and energy bars.Gap in relation with spouse adds to the emptiness"As expenses increase, husbands have to focus more on work and less on their wives and family. It creates distance. Moreover, women tend to neglect themselves, their beauty and many put on weight, which reduces the man`s interest further. Once I had more time I started taking care of my hair and going to gym, as do many women, to get the attention back." This testimony of self neglect is coming from the woman who did her post graduation in nutrition and dietetics, before marriage, and takes pride in having inculcated healthy habits in her family.
For Deepali it has led to better relations with her son. "After I allowed my son to take charge of his life, our fights have reduced. Our equation is friend-like. Constantly innovating flavours, shapes, and sizes for my products to remain current gives me immense joy." Niessha too has experienced great benefits on personal and familial level."People now know me as Niessha, not just Mrs. Bubna. You become more confident, manage the house much better, knowledge brings a new energy and having your own money gives you sense of freedom. Even kids benefit if you`re physically and mentally fit because you`re less dependent and they`re less stressed knowing you`re busy with your own life."
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