How to keep love alive this Valentine’s Day

Last Updated: Jan 15, 2012, 12:20 PM IST

Washington: Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be the only time to express love for one’s partner; rather, it should serve as a reminder to devote time and energy to your relationship every day, marriage experts have said.

Philip Lee and his wife Diane Rudolph from the Marital and Family Therapy program, who have been counseling couples for more than 25 years and have been married for more than 20 years, have shared their advice on how to keep the flame of love burning past Valentine’s Day.

“Valentine’s Day is not a day for arguing with your spouse or significant other. In fact, no day is good for that. Couples should spend more time acknowledging the positive aspects of their relationship and put aside their complaints,” Newswise quoted Lee as saying.

Lee and Rudolph start with being considerate but not too practical when considering buying a Valentine’s Day gift, as this day is about celebrating the charming nature of love.

Being diplomatic comes next in line, as instead of screaming and throwing a tantrum about the things that make one upset, one should praising one’s partner for doing the things that are helpful to them.

Every individual should give their partner space, as both the partners need some transition time after work, and once they’ve had that time they will both be much better listeners, and probably more willing to cooperate with each other.

Remembering the good old days, being polite and breaking the cycle of arguments, follow next.

Lee and Rudolph say that never starting sentences with the word “never”, saying thank you and just listening without offering any suggestions all a person needs to keep the flame alive beyond Valentine’s Day.

ANI