‘Un-friending’ the Virtual Friends
Socialization and technology have been the most crucial differentiators that supported the exponential growth of human race. The merger of these two concepts through the virtual matrix of internet has revolutionized the way people used to interact and communicate. From your neighbour to an individual sitting thousands of miles away, online socializing platforms allow users to interact sitting from the comfort of your home. It will not be an exaggeration to term this phenomenon, triggered by networking sites, as ‘Social Renaissance’.
Facebook, the largest social media community in the world, has more than 500 million active users (as of October 2010). With this number, it is considered that if Facebook would have been a country, it will be the fourth largest in terms of population. The online media craze initiated by Facebook has been successfully endorsed by Twitter, YouTube and iPod apps.
Having said that, the real difference online social networking matrix brings to your life is still questionable. This is because most of the individuals do not connect to people whom they have added to their friend list. Friend list is more about quantity than quality.
Online Social Networking – A Different World
Having a social networking account has almost become a necessity in order to express our opinions, to stay in touch with our friends or to post an alert about trivial actions during the day. But, have you ever given any serious thought to your friend list. Have you ever tried to remove a virtual friend off your list?
Last weekend while updating my account on a social networking site my friend list caught my attention all of a sudden. As I pondered over that, I realized that there are some friends with whom I had not had a hearty talk for a while. They were the friends, whom either I requested to join or I accepted their friend request excitedly thinking that I will converse with them in the future. But when I browsed through the names in my friend list, it came as a surprise to me that the number of actual friends or people with whom I had a word recently is very small.
I felt the burden of guilt on my heart for not being able to talk to other so-called friends, “so-called” because at the time that friendly relationship seemed so virtual to me. Virtual definition of friends has become something different than the friends I would like to hang out with.
There are so many persons like me who have a long list of such virtual friends and who, at one point of time, realize that their list has long gone beyond their intimate friends. It seemed to me that the relationships on such sites have quickly evolved from quality of friends to quantity.
I wondered why I did not eliminate such people from my friend list and why, in the first place, I was so anxious to join them when somewhere in my heart I knew that I will not talk to them except perhaps occasionally.
Obviously, not all of us kept the list so long because we all are smitten by the number mania (the more friends you have, the cooler you are). I think it’s just that we want to avoid the awkwardness of acting completely impersonal to people by removing them off our elaborate friend list. As, of course, we will also get offended if someone with more than 500 friends, eliminates us off their friend list.
I completely understand that selective discretion is crucial to social networking system. However, even in this virtual environment, deleting friends without any explanation of any sort can turn out to be a jarring experience.
For me, this problem is actually too horrible to contemplate. Let’s try to post this on my page and see if any of my virtual friends can come up with a solution for this problem.
You guys get going. Try to unfriend a virtual friend from your list and please also post an alert for me if you know about how to get away from that horrible awkwardness later.