Breathe slowly and deeply to reduce blood pressure and heart rate—two factors linked to stress and anxiety in a fight. You can think more clearly and oxygenate your brain with breathing.
Take a moment to hear the other person out. You can take your time processing what your partner is trying to say by pausing. Respect and animosity can be expressed via listening.
Pay attention to the current problem. If you still need to solve any old issues, put them off for another time.
If you are feeling overwhelmed or unable to handle the talk, take a break. This will allow you to calm down. It can help you avoid saying anything you might come to regret.
Make thoughtful word choices and concentrate on using "I" statements rather than "you" statements. Say something like, "I feel upset when this happens," as opposed to, "You always do this."
By showing empathy for your partner, you can avoid being needlessly cruel. It's easier to suggest a compromise after you have a clearer grasp of your partner's viewpoint.
Elevating your voice draws focus on you rather than the argument. Your partner is less likely to listen to you if you are yelling unnecessarily.
Get over the mindset of "I'm right, you're wrong." Needing to prove you're right in order to win frequently leads to frustration, which can quickly turn into hate and fury.
Keep your cool and remain respectful, regardless of what happens in the argument. Refrain from name-calling, threatening, or getting physically aggressive.
Think of something that will make you laugh or something that will help you calm down. Think of anything that may help your body feel calmer and offer your brain a respite from the angry feelings.