London: Seeking marriage counselling may not the best idea to save your relationship, a British report suggests.
The Department for Education report suggests that marriage counselling can do more harm than good as it makes couples feel like a failure and that their relationship is already over.
Most people would rather resolve relationship problems privately between themselves or with the help of close friends and family.
However, if they do resort to professional help then it was ‘intrinsically linked with feelings of failure and defeat,’ the reports suggests.
It also made people feel weak and that by the time a couple decided to attend relationship counselling it was often too late "to repair a relationship".
"Many of the participants felt that a couple should be able to deal with their relationship problems privately... without having to rely on external relationship support," the Telegraph quoted the report as saying.
"Support from friends and family was more acceptable than formal support such as relationship counselling.
"A few of the participants suggested that if a couple required formal or professional relationship support to solve a relationship difficulty, then the relationship was not worth saving and unlikely to be successful.
"Most of the participants reported that they would not use a relationship counselling service," the report added.